There’s an excellent comment (left by a woman) on the recent (extremely good) post We are playing by girl’s rules at Oz Conservative.
The post concerns the destructive effects of the sexual strategies pursued by modern women. The commenter notes that the average woman is sexually attracted to dominance in men and goes on to point out that the collapse in masculinity in the West has led women to look for the wrong sort of dominant men.
I think this is absolutely spot on. We hear a lot about alpha and beta men but these terms often mislead people.
Women are attracted to dominant men because they’re supposed to be. It’s basic biology. It’s human nature (and whether you believe that human nature is the result of evolutionary pressures or God’s wisdom doesn’t really matter here). The survival of society has always depended on traditional sex rôles and the maintenance of those rôles requires that women should choose men who are capable and decisive. Dominant men.
The dominant men to whom women are attracted are not necessarily men who wrassle gators bare-handed. A woman wants a man who is strong emotionally, forceful, decisive and confident. A man who can assert his authority. Including his authority over his woman. That doesn’t mean slapping her around. A man who does that is demonstrating his weakness and lack of authority. A strong man asserts his authority without the need for such things.
But there aren’t any such men any more. Feminism has thoroughly emasculated western men. Women can no longer find genuine dominant men so they choose what appears to be the only viable option. They go for allegedly alpha men – men who are bad boys, men whose selfishness and duplicity pass for strength and confidence, men who seem sexually potent but are really just overgrown teenagers. These fake alpha men have neither the inclination nor the ability to hang on to a woman so the women drift from one man to another. Feminism tells them that being a slut is empowering and the fake alpha men do nothing to discourage them from such behaviour.
Then the woman sees the wall approaching. She’s in her late twenties or early thirties and the sexy bad boys aren’t interested any longer – they can get younger female flesh. And the biological clock is ticking. Suddenly marriage, a home, security and children seem more important than sexual pleasure. So the women go looking for a beta male. The stereotype of the beta male is the decent hard-working responsible man prepared to be a good provider. The sort of man women used to see as ideal husband material.
But even the beta men today are emasculated. They’re the ones that fully internalised decades of feminist propaganda. They believe the whole liberal agenda. They are doormats just waiting for a woman to step on them. Women of course despise weak men. And they feel zero sexual attraction to weak feminised men. So as soon as they’re in a financial position to do so the woman gets a divorce, and goes back to trying to chase the hot alpha men who no longer want them.
The beta males of the 1950s were a different story. They may have been responsible and hard-working family men but they had not had their masculinity stripped from them. Women who married such men were generally pretty happy.
So the alpha and beta males of today are both in their own ways less than men. It’s no wonder women end up regarding all men with contempt.
Of course feminism is to blame for all this. More importantly it is the fault of everyone who has advanced or enabled the feminist agenda. Including Christians. Especially Christians, who have responded to the mortal threat posed by feminism with grovelling and surrender.
What can be done about this? I honestly don’t know. The feminist agenda is now so firmly entrenched that it seems unchallengeable. It’s been pushed so far that even the mildest criticisms are greeted with outrage. There’s certainly no way that the basic biological fact that being dominated by a man is sexually and emotionally exciting to a woman and will in the long run make her happy is going to get listened to.